No one likes a poop sandwich

Parents want the truth ... not a poop sandwich

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Most teachers will know what I mean when I say giving a child 'Poo sandwich feedback' where you slide some negative feedback between two nice flavoursome positive points to make it more palatable e.g. "Timmy- a really imaginative piece of writing, next time make sure that you use the definite article correctly. I particularly liked your use of simile" 

Well after reading through the amazing parent responses to the PTA UK parent survey it seems that we sometimes do this to parent too-  And it turns out they'd rather take their poop on its own! Here's what a few of them said:

  • [What one thing would you change about parent-teacher conferences?] Be honest - ditch the positive slant on everything she does.- PTA UK respondent


  • [What one thing would you change about parent-teacher conferences?] - Instead of saying nice things and a "sleight of mouth" I would like them to give an accurate assessment of ability and potential, benchmarked against the hundreds of other children they will have taught in the past. - PTA UK respondent


  • [What one thing would you change about parent-teacher conferences?]  I wish they would discuss openly an honestly with me my daughters progress in school without being concerned about favouritism or pidgeon holeing. My daughter is in year 4 and ever parent evening I have asked teachers for an assessment either marks out of 10 or a-e however the wish to do score it so I can visualise how well she is doing academically but I am always told that they can't do that. Instead they tell me she is doing great it doing fantastic. I have no idea what that means. I am by no means a pushy parent but I do want my daughter to do really well in school. I wish they could say "she is well above average with her creative writing, you might want to encourage that at home" or even "she's not too great at maths, maybe you could think about these extra books to help". I want honesty. -PTA UK


[Optional] Synthesize a little! In one sentence, describe something you learned from your empathy exercises or analogous research.

Parents want honesty even if it is negative.

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The honestly policy should be reinforced by school admin I think.. sometimes I worry teachers are "afraid" to tell the truth.. "Be honest - ditch the positive slant on everything she does."

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