To be or not to be like

Ask students to identify one specific behavior they observe that day that if they did that would make them more liked. Or vice versa less.

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The key is in looking well, then making the mental translation to what they do now, and maybe see they already do this and thus make them feel good about themselves. Or get an opportunity to improve themselves. Likable people are easier to work with, so get more done, feel even bette about themselves etcetc

How does this idea help to spark student curiosity?

Detailed looking is the key to finding differences? Seeing differences is the key to change? A motive (being liked more) helps to keep up the momentum? Self-knowledge is the shortest route to wisdom? Keeping a constant look-out for improvement makes you see things that would previously go unnoticed? And you start to see people do the funniest things, mainly unintendedly? Much like you yourself, maybe? ;-)

What grade level is this idea most appropriate for?

  • All of the above


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I like this idea very much. It puts students into the positive emotional attractor (Boyatzis by having to think about and identify behaviors that get them to imagine a different or desireable that aligns with an Ideal Self.


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