Eternal Honeymooners (To the Moon Alice!)

PD often results in a quick boost followed by a return to old ways. It's called "The Honeymoon Effect". - HMW create an Eternal Honeymoon?

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In the book Primal Leadership - Daniel Goleman introduces us to "The Honeymoon Effect"

“…. the all-too familiar honeymoon effect of most training, where an immediate improvement fades almost entirely within three to six months.  The familiar cycle goes something like this: A person leaves the program enthusiastic and committed to improving.  But, back in the office, dozens of e-mails, letters, and calls await him.  The boss and a subordinate have each called with an emergency, and hi is sucked into the swamp of demands.  All of the new learning slips away as old, knee-jerk responses take over.”

Goleman goes on to explain that part of this challenge (without getting too technical - that's the authors job) is due to the way our brains are structured. The kinds of learning we are trying to foster come down to creating ingrained habits - as opposed to surface learning, like cramming for an exam.

How might we inspire the kind of learning that does not fall off - but sticks with us and spurs action to continuously learn more? HMW ingrain those habits instead of allowing the learning to go the way of the honeymoon?


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Photo of Dan Blake

You pose some great "How might we...?" questions that we can address in the ideation phase of the Collaboration. Your post makes me think of the work of Chip and Dan Heath around what makes an idea or a concept "stick." I look forward to exploring this idea further.

Photo of Charles Shryock, IV

Dan, I appreciate your appreciation of the process. Thanks for sharing these connections!

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